Event - My divorce is almost final after 16 years of marriage. The man I married and confided my most secret thoughts to has now become a seriously ill alcoholic. This past year has been filled with old friends calling me up confronting me with things I said privately to my then trustworthy husband.
Now my ex husband has not only told the truth about things I said, but has taken up lying and added in strangers to gang up on me that I never said a thing about.
The things I said pertained to reasons I wouldn't let my children stay over i.e. drug abuse and reasons I wouldn't go places with certain friends i.e. hanging on men
The most aweful secret that got out was someone whose child came to me & confided in me that he was being abused, so I got the child help and he no longer lives with his mother. I told my husband how upset I was that she didn't protect her child or believe him and he told her that and added in a pack of lies to make it worse.
Apology - To those friends that have been hurt. I did say some of the things my stbx husband told you. I'm very very sorry you had to find out how I was feeling inside several years after you have changed. I can't take back what was said but I can promise to come right out and tell you myself or keep my mouth shut in the future . I've learned the hard way that even a partner for life can not be trusted.
To the friends that have already forgiven me "I Thank You from the bottom of my heart for understanding and still loving me despite all of this mess"
To the strangers I honestly haven't said anything about you but please forgive me for blocking your phone numbers, because I'm so exhausted from the droves of friendships I've had to mend and I just can't deal with the new lies. Please forgive my stbx alcoholic husband because his illness has ruined his mind and the man I married would have never lied to you.
