Event - I remember when I was about 15 I had a tennis lesson - and one day I just decided not to go. I think my friends were going to the mall and I wanted to go. So I went with them and blew the lesson off. I didn't call the coach and tell her. When I got home, my dad was there. "Did you go to your lesson?" I was like, "Sure - good lesson." At that moment the phone rang. My dad answered and it was my coach. "Where was Marc today." Doh! My dad was pissed and sent me to my room. Okay - I screwed up. But my second layer of guilt came when I decided to try and manipulate him by writing an apology note. So I wrote this long note about being irresponsible and how sorry I was. And I went to the faucet and let a few drops of water fall onto the note - fake tears : ) It worked like a charm - no punishment.
Apology - First off, I'm sorry I lied. I knew better, and I should have just gone to the lesson, or told him I blew it off. Second, the manipulation thing was just one in a long line of manipulations I've pulled off over the years. I think it's just an instinct of mine, but I'm getting better. At least I'm trying!