My Angel
posted by Still Grieving - Mar 2010 |
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| Event - My bf and I have been dating for 7 yrs now, but we both are still in college. We accidentally got pregnant last year on my birthday. We had discussed previously that if we got pregnant before we were married we wouldn't keep it because we both have really screwed up families and his mother is really sick...so basically we wouldn't be able to take care of the child the way it should be. So we had an abortion. That day was single handedly the worse day of my life. I know a lot of ppl don't agree with abortion so I don't want to hear how you think its wrong, I was doing what I felt was best even if it wasn't the right decision. |
| Apology - I'm sorry my sweet angel for not being more careful and I hope you can forgive me for my carelessness. February 23rd would have been your first birthday, so Happy Birthday darling and I hope you can forgive your mother. |
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Comment by Linden on Wed 12 May, 2010
Dear Still grieving-I am a Christian, but I am not writing to judge you. I heard a sermon not too long ago-mind you I don't think there is scripture to support this-but it might comfort you a little. There are some that believe that the little ones that die before birth or as infants are in Heaven waiting to be rocked by their mothers. Live your life, but in a way to end up in heaven and after you die (as hopefully and old lady with as many other children as you want) you will rock your angel in heaven. God bless you. I will pray for you! |
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Comment by mal on Tue 30 Mar, 2010
It's done and was the right thing to do for you at the time. Treat youself to some forgiveness an remember that we all make mistakes an have to o what is necessary to put them right.This was right for you. Move on .... on't let it blight the rest of your life. Lets be honest you have no idea of the date it would have been born so there is no birthday to get upset about. Time to look to the future not the past. |
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Comment by Johnny on Sun 28 Mar, 2010
Ever hear of adoption? Abortion for the sake of convenience is never the "right thing" to do. |
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Comment by Stu on Tue 23 Mar, 2010
It doesnt matter if it was a cluster of cells or a little Angel. you feel the loss deep inside you and its real. Take heart from the fact that when you're ready you'll hopefully have a happy healthy beautiful baby who you will cherish all the more.You are SO forgiven. Its life, you made a call and you'll get through it. |
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Comment by Ralf on Tue 23 Mar, 2010
Your pregnancy was a cluster of cells, not an "angel" with a "birthday". This may seem harsh, but it's true. Of course you feel emotional, but please try not to anthropomorphise the potential baby when it wasn't one yet. You have the chance to have a real baby when it's right for you, so don't beat yourself up over this. You did the right thing. Now be nice to yourself and move on. |
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Comment by AlsoAnon on Fri 19 Mar, 2010
This is actually one reason so many people oppose abortion. It's highly traumatic to the mother, it's not something that just makes the pregnancy like it never happened. That fertilized egg is a little person, and mothers know that instinctively. (I'm not trying to judge the women who've posted here who've had abortions, there can always be forgiveness. I'm just saying how I see the situation.) |
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Comment by Grinan on Wed 17 Mar, 2010
still grieving- I don't know if God would put a soul into a little fetus before it even got a chance to live or take its first breath.... It's a fertilized egg, nothing more. People have miscarriages all the time, I'm a firm believer that if a soul was meant to live, it wouldn't be placed in tissue that never is born... I think you made the right decision, and you need to forgive yourself! It's alright that you wanted the best for your children when they do come! I'm sure your little one will come back to you when you're ready. :) |
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Comment by S.F.25 on Fri 12 Mar, 2010
I can relate soooo much to your story and March 9th would have been the 3rd bday. Its a difficult thing to go through and I would like to tell you that it gets easier but even though it was my choice it haunts me everyday! But there has to be a point where you come to realization that you did what you felt in your heart was right and forgive yourself and not worry about what others think. Until some one is put in that situation they have absolutely no right to judge you |
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Comment by DarkBite on Fri 12 Mar, 2010
You carried long enough to find out child would have been a female? Too bad you didn't take 'care' of the matter sooner. After all, you had it all planned out. My words about not relating to the pill (etc) was meant for people for whom it was not too late...not for you. As far as my being 'mouthy' - there's a little button that reads 'post comment' which is open for all to use - but then you knew that. You are just letting off some steam towards me and I hope that helps you. My words are just my opinion and not to be taken as fact. May you graduate at the top of your class (take that as fact). PS About the word 'ASSUME' - I do my best to get my information from the words of the individual who posted. When I remark on something that is not in the post I state that 'I'm guessing' or 'hoping.' I'm not the best writer and subject to be misunderstood. And I hope your little angel has learned to use her wings. |
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Comment by DarkBite on Thu 11 Mar, 2010
If you can't relate to not having sex, condoms or the pill - try relating to putting the baby up for adoption. Or take the chance of having haunting thoughts the rest of your life. This college student used her intellect, but not her brains. PS Doesn't one have to first be born to have a birthday? I hope you bring more joy into life than you took out of it. Get cracking! I'm guessing you can. |
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Comment by still grieving on Thu 11 Mar, 2010
re: darkbite I've noticed that you are quite mouthy but all I have to say is that are you assuming I didn't use protection...and if so you know what they say happens when you ASSUME...you make an A** OUT OF U AND ME...
ps. why do you feel the need to comment on everyones apology? By the way I still wish to honor my child by recognizing her birthday (yes I said her) so know one doesn't have to be born to have a "birth"day |
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